7 Sexual Orientation Terms That You Might Not Be Aware Of

7 Sexual Orientation Terms That You Might Not Be Aware Of


If you're here, then it might be safe to assume the fact that you're already aware of what heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual means.

But these are not the only sexual orientations that you should know about.

Remember that orientation doesn't mean that you choose the object of attraction; it describes your state and condition, or your feelings leaning towards a preference and that's it. Sexual orientation describes your sexual interest, not behavior.

To put it simply, it's attraction and not action. The decision on how you'll validate yourself lies on you.

The American Psychological Association mentions the fact that although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.

Furthermore, APA defines sexual orientation as "... an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender. Sexual orientation also refers to a person’s sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions. Research over several decades has demonstrated that sexual orientation ranges along a continuum, from exclusive attraction to the other sex to exclusive attraction to the same sex."

Check out the following list. Maybe you'll find a term that describes you the best or you know someone who identifies themselves as of one these -

Asexual - an individual who's not sexually attracted to any gender. They divide in repulsed and flexible. Repulsed asexuals don’t want to have sex with another person at all. Flexible are the ones who would maybe consider having sex in some conditions (like being in a relationship with a sexual partner).

A-romantic - a person who is not asexual (but can be both asexual and aromantic) but does not experience romantic feelings toward another person.

Pansexual - is one who is sexually interested in other people regardless of their gender. It's commonly confused with being Bisexual. The difference is that a pansexual’s attraction is based on other things than gender and that gender doesn’t play an important role to develop desire.

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Heteroflexible - Attraction primarily to opposite sex (heterosexual) with an occasional attraction to members of the same sex AND/OR able to derive pleasure from romantic encounters with members of the opposite sex.

Homoflexible - who's primarily gay but sometimes feel attraction to the opposite gender or/ and finds it pleasurable to engage in a sexual activity with one.

Demisexual - a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection. It's more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships. Demisexuality is a part of the asexual spectrum, placing the term demi between sexual and asexual.

It's important to differentiate demisexuality and celibacy; being a demisexual means that the person is unable to be attracted to someone they are not attached to whereas in celibacy is more of a conscious choice to not engage in any sexual activity with strangers despite the attraction.

Sapiosexual - getting aroused by someone's intelligence, deep conversations. Some claim that sapiosexual is just a pseudo-intellectual term. But if you identify with and take validation and comfort - be a sapiosexual with pride.

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