How To Get Over Breakup, According To Science
By ANTONINA DĘBOGÓRSKA
From a psychological and physiological perspective, the aftermath of breakups doesn't differ much from the bereavement post the death of someone close.
Our body goes through the torture of touch deprivation, the immune system is weaker and we could even experience similar symptoms of that of a heart attack known as the 'Broken heart syndrome.'
So, how can we deal with this difficult situation?
First and foremost, very important to keep in mind - When it comes to breaking up, it's OK to not be 'cool' about it.
Don't fake it. Don't deny your feelings. It's normal that you might miss your ex desperately, even if your relationship went sour at the end.
It's very common whereby we start blaming ourselves and feel guilty for things we have or haven't done. This is a good sign.
And the way you feel right now is the process of growth. Take it as feedback for future relationships. But don't torture yourself.
You had your reasons why you did something or not. You can repair your mistakes in the next relationship.
It's also important to have social support - people who you can trust and spend time with, a psychologist or a person you can talk about your experience.
Very often, people neglect their bodies after a breakup. It's good to remember that the body is the place where emotions form.
Our feelings are actually cognitive interpretations of responses from our body.
So, I would advise the 'broken-hearted' person to look at their healing through not only the mind but also from the perspective of their body.
Go for a massage, get proper sleep, avoid coffee, give relaxation techniques or yoga a shot.
And don't forget to hug your friends and family as much as you can.
Don't try to silence the pain with alcohol or recreational drugs. It might cheer you up in the short run but has worse effects in the long run.
And if you feel that you just can't stand this pain, seek professional help! Imagine yourself as someone who has a big, physical wound to heal. It's painful and needs care, time and support. In that case, wouldn't you visit the doctor? It's the same thing with mental pain.